Some folks do Feldenkrais because they think it can help them have better sex.
The idea has *some* merit but with major caveats.
There was a time in the distant past - about 1991 - when I was deeply intrigued and fascinated by Moshe Feldenkrais' ideas on having better sex. I was a 20-something x-drug addict and x- drug dealer living a marginal life in Dallas, Texas. And the switch from experimenting with drugs to experimenting with reading and doing Feldenkrais sessions made me feel like I had just escaped from the Matrix.
I was also reading and re-reading one of Moshe's books, Body and Mature Behavior.
It had long detailed passages about how sexual tension built up in the body, how it was released through muscular and spinal contractions. He also wrote in detail about how the process was related to the ability of the pelvis to move freely and contract deeply. He went on page after page describing his ideas on how to be more "potent," and "mature" in that area.
It was incredibly fascinating to me...
but also completely useless in the short term.
It did not improve my sex life.
Not even a little bit.
Let's face it, a weird, introverted, socially awkward 23-year-old, who spends his time rolling on the floor and reading books about "awareness through movement" isn't going to be a chick magnet.
And like it as not, doing Feldenkrais-based sessions *may* increase one's confidence but social skills take time and work to develop.
Even after an 800 hour Feldenkrais "training" which I completed in 1997, I did not feel more powerful nor potent in that area.
What did help was raising my status in life, in general. Things such as finishing college, getting an advanced degree, traveling, and working out. All things that helped me feel more confident and desirable. Was Feldenkrais a factor in that? Yes.
For the most part, I did not think about the topic until recently reaching the age of 50. (I am 52 1/2 as I write this email FYI).
And I started wondering how to keep myself functioning well. But I did not look to Feldenkrais. I did quite a bit of research and decided to change my diet. Nitric oxide is important for the sexual health of both men and women. It helps increase blood flow.
I increased the various vegetables that help increase nitric oxide in the body (onions, broccoli, cabbage, beets, etc). And strangely enough, getting my teeth cleaned helped a great deal. Apparently, much nitric oxide is produced in the mouth and the bad bacteria stops the good bacteria from doing their thing.
And I increased both my exercise and the length of my meditation sessions.
Did it help?
Would Feldenkrais-based sessions have helped me just as well?
Sorry, but NO.
Unless one has a medical condition, it is diet, cardiovascular health, and healthy habits in general that are 90% of the battle in having a healthy sex life.
There are no natural miracles for someone who is out of shape and eating a crappy diet (as I have done at times).
That being said, I have found that there is ONE crucial thing that Feldenkrais has helped me with.
And it perhaps it can help you as well:
Control of the opening and contracting of your pelvic floor and thus:
- Deeper relaxation of your pelvic and core muscles which allow you to move easier and contract more deeply
- Better modulation and control of your sexual sensations
- Reduction of anxiety and tension
And a healthy side effect: Better control of your bladder. (Young men take note: Incontinence isn't something that only your grandma gets. It happens to both women and men. And it is much easier to prevent it than reverse it).
If you want to learn more, check out my Feldenkrais-based pelvic floor sessions for men and women.
It won't be at this low price for much longer.
Yours in pelvic health. And perhaps, better sex!